I think this will be a small series as I seem to be stumbling upon so many little sayings that we have in our lives that trip us up. In fact many clichés and innocuous sayings in our day to day lives now appear to keep us lockdown in the trickiest little ways. Sometimes you’ll think you’re saying something to be funny or encouraging, but then you notice that there is a little catch in what you’ve said that makes you think maybe it’s true. I’m going to take some of these on and explore some sneaky deep-seated thoughts that could be keeping us from whatever it is we desire.
One of the very first sayings that did I’d like to bust or at least rework is “it doesn’t get any better than this.”
You know when you’re in a moment where life is just so good? An example for me is when I’m sitting on the deck at my cottage, having a nice cold beer on a hot summer day after great time fishing or hiking. Right then I bet you say “it just doesn’t get any better than this.” And … it’s a lie!
It seems harmless but if you say “it just doesn’t get any better than this” it won’t. You will always have a set standard of awesome. One thing I have learned is that if you say “how does it get better than this,” it does! Not that the bliss you’re in is a bad thing, but why would you limit yourself to just that standard of awesome? Wouldn’t you like even MORE ways for life to be awesome?!
Energetically, when you say “it doesn’t get any better than this” it’s a finite statement. Whereas, “how does it get better than this” is a question that opens up your imagination and possibilities. The tone of the question opens up the entire world for you. Compare that to the tone of the statement and you find yourself completely stopped at the end. This subtle difference gets proven over and over and over in my life; not only does my imagination light up but things really do keep getting better and better.
Lately I find myself playing a little game (in my head) when friends or family members are having a good time and they’re saying “it doesn’t get any better than this.” When they say that, I will always tack on “how does it?” It seems to catch people off guard; they look at me a little funny … and they start to wonder! I can see their imagination ignite as well, and that’s where I find my excitement.
I wonder if “it doesn’t get better than this” has become so ingrained in our language because we’ve been taught that whatever you have is enough and it’s bad, wrong and greedy to ask for more. Possibly, and … I have a little bit of a conspiracy theory going on with this. In the corporate world, in politics, religion, and just the way the world is set up right now, language and conventions are set up to make sure that the majority is kept in place and controllable. This ensures that we live within their authority. In that light, “it doesn’t get any better than this” is planting that little seed that this is your place and that’s the best you may have. Fun eh?!
So, now, imagine using “how does it get better than this” when things are so awesome that you just can’t imagine a life any more perfect. Does that change your sense of the future at all? And what if you could ask this question when things are crap too? Would that open your mind to thinking forward rather than focusing on the pile of poo you’re currently facing? I wonder!
How does it get even better than this?